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I hope this letter finds you well. I recently had a conversation with a few friends over lunch about the self-worth or self-esteem as it is commonly known. The topic had been on my mind a week before we actually had the conversation. Honesty ladies, it still is because I believe that as women and young girls, we (I know I do) are constantly faced with redefining ourselves regarding who we are as individuals, who we are with the people we love and care about, those we work with day after day, and others in our social circle. Through this evolutionary process, negative experiences and environmental toxicity can greatly increase the likelihood of one’s self-worth to plummet, hence causing one to struggle with low self-esteem. But, what really is self-esteem? Can we quantify it or should we be quantifying it at all? If so, how? What makes for a high or low self-esteem? How to attain high self-esteem? What to base it upon? How does one know at what level his/her self-esteem is and how to change it if desired? These are just a few questions we discussed.
So I asked my friends to define self worth for me and asked whether they considered themselves as having a high or low self-esteem. From the bulk of the conversation, I got away that self-worth as we agreed to define it, is the perception or the idea about oneself. As the conversation progressed, however, we began to disagree on answers to questions posed above, so I couldn’t help but do an internet search in order to get some answers. I have to say, there is a plethora of info out there, so brace yourselves!! I recommend Chamomile tea for afterward relaxation. To get you started, I have listed links below to give you a general idea.
Here’s my take on the issue. I believe that self-esteem is an important determinant of a person’s behaviors and proclivities. This is just jargon to say that there are many things that influence the way we behave, self-esteem being one of them. That is, the higher a person’s self-esteem, the more positive the behavior will be and the lower the self-esteem, the more negative the behavior will be. And of course, either way, we'd have to deal with the consequences.
Long story short, I for one, think that it’s ok to acknowledge when we’re down or have little or no self-esteem in any area of our lives because doing so helps heal and improve the mind, soul, and body. So ladies, remember this letter when you have one of those days and know that it’s ok (I make a mental not for myself!). You’re not an alien! Everyone goes through this!!! Even the seemingly most confident person in the world! Your circumstances and experiences (past and present) should not dictate how you value yourself. The trick is to improve you and move forward. Enough said!! I’ve rambled again! I wanna know what you lovely ladies think. Join the conversation and please share! You just don’t know who you might inspire! Till we talk again!!